Ravi Zacharias’ Sobering Reminder of the Risks Out There for Married Men


In the latest frenzy of sexual abuse allegations, one lesson stands clear in the smoking pile of rubble that is the media, government, and entertainment industry: Mike Pence was right. 

You may recall that earlier this year, Pence was mocked by the left for his policy to never dine alone with a woman other than his wife and never be alone in a room with a woman other than his wife.

To devout Christians, this didn’t seem silly, and now that everyone and their mother has been accused of sexual abuse, it probably no longer seems silly to anyone (except perhaps really silly leftists, of course, who still think it’s patriarchal oppression or something).

Noted apologist Ravi Zacharias has learned this lesson himself, the hard way, and shared this week with Charisma how important it is for married, Christian men to adhere to the biblical standards of propriety and avoid intimate situations with women other than one’s wife.

He told a story of a couple he had met while touring in Canada and how the wife had asked him to reach out to her husband. They exchanged a few brief and completely innocuous emails, and yet this still opened up a dangerous door.

One would have thought this was perfectly innocent and far from inappropriate for such an influential apologist to do, but this woman sank in her fangs without notice.

“Then, last year,” he says, “she shockingly sent me extremely inappropriate pictures of herself unsolicited. I clearly instructed her to stop contacting me in any form; I blocked her messages and I resolved to terminate all contact with her.”

It didn’t end there.

“In late 2016,” he continues. “She sent an email informing me she planned to tell her husband about the inappropriate pictures she had sent and to claim that I had solicited them. In April 2017, together they sent me, through an attorney, a letter demanding money. I immediately notified members of my board, and as they advised, I personally engaged legal counsel.”

Zacharias was entangled in a ridiculous legal battle for which he had no reason to be subjected to, and yet, because this woman said he’d solicited the pictures, she could have damaged his venerable reputation (kind of reminds you of a certain senatorial candidate doesn’t it? How many people would have loved to believe Zacharias was engaged in sexual impropriety?)

This wasn’t the only lesson Zacharias learned, however. He learned exactly why certain boundaries exist for Christians.

“As a husband, father, grandfather and leader of a Christian ministry, I should not have engaged in ongoing communication with a woman other than my wife,” he boldly admits.

This is a very valuable reminder that all married Christians should take to heart.

“I failed to exercise wise caution and to protect myself from even the appearance of impropriety, and for that I am profoundly sorry,” Ravi explains. “I have acknowledged this to my Lord, my wife, my children, our ministry board and my colleagues.”

This is exactly why Mike Pence has the rules he does. Because even the appearance of impropriety can potentially ruin a man.

Guard your hearts and your reputations, saints! As 1 Thessalonians 5:22 says, we are to abstain from even the appearance of evil, so make sure you can’t be accused of anything even when you are innoncent.

If it can happen to Ravi Zacharias, believe us, it can happen to you too!